Have been reading way too many blogs lately and came upon a list of the top 100 sex bloggers of 2012. http://www.betweenmysheets.com/top-100-sex-bloggers-of-2012
THis led me to a very interesting blog called THe Domme Chronicles written by a young woman named Ferns. She had a really good post about invoking and maintaining submission of your partner.
Basically it says that without the dominant working at it also, the submissive cannot carry on alone.
I've read this concept before but it was nice the way she related this to any loving partnership and noted that it is always something that both partners have to be invested in and working at to make it happen.
Here's the link to her post http://www.domme-chronicles.com/2012/11/invokingmaintaining-his-submission.html
Tuesday, November 20, 2012
Tuesday, November 06, 2012
Saturday morning I woke horny and daydreamed of sex as T slept. Finally she woke at nearly 10am. We really needed that extra sleep. I told T that I had been thinking of making breakfast for her while nude and perhaps she could encourage me around the kitchen with a wooden spoon. We had our shower and she got dressed while I only put on my robe. I made her breakfast and she teased me a few times as I worked at the stove and counter. After breakfast as I wiped the counter she came up behind me and pointed out some spots I had “missed”. She fondled my ass as I bent over further. Then she opened a drawer and got out a spatula and started spanking my ass with it. I was getting aroused quickly. She tried a few different implements and I finally took off my robe entirely. She kept getting more things out to use on me including spatulas and wooden spoons including some very big heavy ones. I was totally enjoying it as she paddled my ass very rosy red. She even spread my cheeks and paddled right into my crack. I was up on my toes trying to open my self as much as possible. She was blowing air on my ass hole as I panted in lust. The big surprise was when she got out the butter dish and put a big glob of butter on my asshole. She smeared it around and it started to melt. She was looking for something with a useable shape and finally settled on the plastic handle of a spatula and started working it into my ass. She started out slow and it soon started to feel really good to me. Then she started spanking my ass, my cock and even my balls as she worked that handle into my ass. I was so excited as I thought of a recent story I read by Strict Julie where she played doctor with her husband and spanked him hard as she worked a series of dildoes up his ass.
T then got down in front of me and had me hold the spatula up my ass. She took a scoop of frosting off the cake on the counter and smeared it on my hard hot cock and then stuffed it in her mouth. She sucked me wonderfully as I fucked my ass with that handle. I must have been getting my prostate pretty well because I had the most incredible orgasm ever. I was yelling out loud for the longest most intense come ever. I don't know how I ever remained standing through it.
After I came back to the real world T helped pull the spatula handle out of my ass and wiped it off. She said I could take a shower to clean up the butter from my ass. I decided to wash the dishes that had been used on my ass while I was still naked and servile before showering.
I guess my service manner didn't last all day and T mentioned a few times when she indicated she wanted me to do something and I was hesitant to react. That evening she got out the leather cock strap and locked it on me. An hour later we were folding laundry and she said the she expected me to fold her underwear and in the proper way. So I made sure that I knew how she wanted them folded as I usually don't fold things the same way she does. After I got all done she came over and said “You didn't kiss them!” and tossed them back in the basket for me to do over . I was quite surprised at this response. I had briefly thought of doing so but decided she might think it was foolish. Apparently her dominance was lasting longer than my submissiveness today. After I kissed, folded and stacked each one she said that I hadn't kissed them in the crotch of the panties and threatened to make me do it all over again. Wow! There is hope here yet. She really is naturally dominant and she just needs to get over the attitude that it is not proper for a wife to dominate her husband. We are certainly making progress there although I don't think I would want her to be as harsh to me as she is with our daughter. I wore the locked cock and ball strap through the night and she took it off me the following morning before our shower.
We talked a few times in the following days about my attitude after coming. She said “ Does that mean if I want you to do the things I want that I have to keep you from coming?”. I agreed that it would probably help. Anytime that I comment on my state of denial she reminds me that it was my idea. As the saying goes “Be careful what you wish for”.
She does seem to be gaining more of a dominant attitude towards me though, including feeling less guilty about causing me discomfort from denial or pain from spanking. She says that it helps to have positive feedback from me that it's okay with me too, so I made a point of thanking her several times for this session including bringing her a bouquet of flowers.
For some reason I deeply crave being spanked, paddled, flogged and cropped by her and can only imagine if things continue to progress as they have in the past year where we may be a few years from now.
We are having fun with great sex and totally love and respect each other.
Thursday is not a typical day for us to have sex, with work and meeting schedules. I had a rare occasion to have dinner with my sister at which I had a beer. In my middle age I am finding that alcohol and end of day tiredness can inhibit my sexual response.
I was surprised when we went to bed that T was appearing to be sexually interested. She hinted when I went upstairs that I could bind myself up or something. It was chilly in the room and my penis was hiding to say the least so I put on the hollow strapon over it. When she got in bed and found me already large and very had she was surprised. After a few minutes of intercourse I penetrated her with the dildo and fucked her for a few minutes but she doesn't really enjoy the strapon that much. No problem, she got her magic wand vibrator and started using that. I got out some rope and bound my cock and balls. My cock got hard then and with the tightness of the rope it got super hard and engorged. It became so tight it was shiny. I fucked her with that super hard cock. Then I pulled out and moved up to her face and put it in her mouth. It was super sensitive as she licked and sucked. I put my swollen balls in her mouth and had the inspiration to release enough rope to wrap around her head a few times and by doing so tied her mouth in place with my balls in her mouth. This was super hot as she was being force fucked in the mouth with my balls and my super hard cock rubbed up and down on her nose. Finally I untied her and popped my shiny, hard balls out of her mouth. She rolled over and I fucked her from behind. She got her magic wand vibrator and used that on her clit. The vibrations were getting me close so I pulled out and fucked her ass crack. She orgasmed as I humped her ass crack hard enough to bruise my cock as I found out later.
After she had a few minutes to recover she looked at my hard, frustrated cock and said that she thought this would be a permission night. I was excited to think this meant I might get permission to come, even though it had been less than week since my last come. Then she told me that I was to ask permission every time I needed to get up and pee and that I would also need to kiss her pussy each time. Then she had me untie my cock and balls and use the rope to tie a leash around my waist attached to her wrist. We said good night and I tried to sleep despite my aching cock and swollen balls
The first time I woke in need I wasn't sure how best to go about waking her and decided just to go for the pussy kissing first. I wriggled around and got my face down to her pussy without tugging the rope on her wrist and dove in to her sloppy wet cunt. She woke up fairly quickly and enjoyed my method.
She needed to pee also and lead my to the bathroom by my leash. I had to listen to her peeing which made my need more urgent. Then she waited for me to go. I am still a little shy about doing this in her presence which is silly considering some of the other things we do together. It was easier in the dark and I told her that I would need more training to become better at peeing for her.
Twice more I woke during the night and woke T by going down on her. She had me untie her wrist since she didn't need to get up then.
Some fun activities the past few weeks. One morning after a extra long goodbye “kiss” on T's pussy I was very aroused too and ended up with quite a wet spot in my underwear from precum. I mentioned that later to T and said I needed a panty shield. The next day after she had me aroused in the afternoon and was sending me on my way with a hard on, she said wait, and got out a panty shield and stuck it in the front of my boxer briefs. It was extra tough zipping up my jeans with that and the hardon in there.
I kept the shield attached to my shorts all day and it was a pleasant reminder everytime I saw it of my arousal and of my submissiveness to T. I think it would be very interesting if she makes me wear a full size sanitary pad someday. That would cause a bulge in my shorts!
On Saturday morning I woke up very aroused and started thinking about the time that T made me sleep with my head down by her crotch. I decided to just go for it and wriggled my body under the covers, letting my legs fold up at the bottom of the bed. My head was completely under the covers and I couldn't see a thing. I pressed my face forward and was surprised to bump up against bare bottom. By this time T had finally figured out what the heck I was doing behind her. I started kissing her ass and finally made my way down to her pussy and kissed and licked it. I gave her a good pussy eating, including tonguing her asshole. Finally she pulled me up and had me fuck her for while, then she got out the vibrator and got herself off.
That evening we were both tired but started to cuddle and got aroused. She got out the vibrator and used it on my cock. It was very intense, now I know why she cums when she puts that thing on her clit.
She wanted me to fuck her and I did. I was thinking that I didn't want to come yet so that I could be good and submissive for her the next day. But then I started to fantasize about eating my come out of her pussy the next morning and that got me really close to coming. T knew I was close and said it was okay to come. I had only been fucking for a very short time and yet I came very hard.
The next morning we slept late and there was no time for any pussy eating, even if she somehow thought of me doing that. WE had a very busy, stressful afternoon of hard work with a honey bee hive. In the evening I was talking my pants off outside since they were too dirty and sticky to wear in the house. The joys of living in the country! T asked if my underwear was sticky too and pulled them down. She fondled my cock and them gave me some oral foreplay. About then I noticed a honey bee landing on her hair and the dog was approaching us with interest. If it's not kids getting in between us it's the darn dog! So, too many distractions and I got my bare ass in the house.
I went to the bathroom and when I came back her wet panties were under the covers by my pillow.
She said I had not paid enough attention to her panties that day since they were special ones. She said I could wear them, but I might stretch them out with my hardon. She hinted that I could put them on my head. I gave them a good sniff. Then I told her that one time when she was away I put her used panties on my head all night. She said she knew that. Well, now I just had to place them on my face with the damp crotch right over my nose.
I turned out the light and fell asleep that way with my balls against her knees. I woke once during the night when she got up to go to the bathroom and I still had them over my nose. Next time I woke though, they had fallen off.