I am happy to see that one of my favorite bloggers, Susan at A Spanking Marriage (http://spankingmarriage.blogspot.com/) has returned to blogging. I always greatly enjoyed her blogs in the past and wished and hoped that someday I would have a spanking marriage like theirs.
Her most recent post was about the rules in their relationship and I posted a loooong response.
It was so long that I decided to copy it here for posterity:
This set of rules is very much in line with my goals for our flr. My
wife and I have a loose, playful form of flr right now, without any real
"rules". There are things that I do on a regular basis, but it is
really on my own volition and there is not a punishment for not doing
Several years ago I had masturbated during my morning shower and
then found my wife in bed, very much aroused and ready for sex. I was
appalled to find that I could not do that for her because I had just
cum. After that I vowed to not ever ruin the opportunity to have sex
with her and have pretty much entirely stopped masturbating, other than
rare occasions when she is away for a few days and even then I often
don't cum, saving that for her. I also have encouraged her to not let
me cum without permission when we are together. The tough thing about
that is trying to provide her with pleasing intercourse when I am
bursting to cum after weeks of denial. She has learned that it is in her
best interest to deny me orgasm and keep me in a state of arousal for
extended periods as I am very attentive to her then.
I made it my own
rule to always sit while using the toilet. She has found that the
toilet area stays much cleaner without a male splashing around.
I keep my cock, balls and ass shaved at all times, with her permission. She has recently stated that she does like me that way, so I hope to make this a permanent state.
I do enjoy the occasions when she has me wear panties, but it is not a regular thing, hopefully someday!
do enjoy when she gives me play spankings, floggings and belt whippings
and she seems to be enjoying that more too as she sees how much I enjoy
it. I don't think she has ever given me a real punishment spanking. I
don't know if I am that good of a husband to never need one.
enjoy when she is in control and would appreciate having actual rules
and perhaps some required ritual behaviors like kneeling before her at least
once a day.
The one thing that she would likely punish me for and I
do really need to be controlled from is internet use. I have a very
long standing porn addiction and I know that she does not like me
viewing it as she sees it as a form of cheating on her.
I truly wish
that she could see fit to join me in reading such well reasoned and well
written blogs as your to learn that this can be a wonderful, loving
But in her own time, I hope and believe that we will find our way to our mutually happy place.